It is time for your monthly positive thinking service
When was the last time you had a serious conversation with yourself? I am not talking here about a few random thoughts, but a real heart to heart where you can examine in some detail what exactly is happening in your life and most importantly – what’s going through your head.
Yes, I really am asking you to talk to yourself, because everyone needs a full emotional audit from time to time in the same way that a motor car needs a service. You cannot lie to yourself, but you can of course ignore those little nagging questions that are preventing you from obtaining success, improving relationships and much more – that’s what we are talking about here.
And that’s why you need to confront yourself from time to time and have a good clear out of any negative thoughts and actions that might be holding you back. It is the only way that you will ever get your life into some semblance of order.
So if you are ready and using the motor car analogy, we can start with a positive thinking personal service to tune up the bits that are doing well, replace the parts that are worn out and at the end – a good wash and brush up to bring you back to showroom condition.
Find a quiet room with a large mirror if possible – it is difficult to talk to yourself unless you can see someone looking back. Let’s start with the body work – what do you see. This is honesty time and the chances are you are being negative about your looks or some perceived blemish that might be bothering you.
To really practice positive thinking you have to like yourself, you need to recognise that there is not another model quite like yours anywhere else on this planet. You are responsible for its upkeep and maintenance.
If you do not like the image looking back then what are you going to do about it. If you think you are overweight you can choose to diet. If you do not like what you see, you can choose to change your hairstyle unless of course, like me, you have very little, but hopefully you get the idea.
The point is that only you can make the changes you need to boost your body image which is the reason for the heart to heart. Talk to yourself as you would if you were advising another person or a good friend – and then take your own advice.
You are not ugly, you are not unloved and you are a vibrant positive person – even if it doesn’t feel like that right now - you must think it is, if your personal engine is to make real progress. You must keep telling yourself that you are a winner. You are liked, you are successful – this is your story we are talking about here and it is your conversation – so keep it positive.
By remaining upbeat you are reprogramming your own on board computer, your subconscious, that part of your being that works with the Law of Attraction to bring anything you want into your life. This part of your own personal automobile gets all its commands from the brain and if your thoughts are negative then that is what the sub conscious will pick up and the computer will say NO.
If your personal computer is saying no then once again – what are you going to do about it? About time we stepped up this conversation. Start talking to yourself right now and ask honestly what might be troubling you.
I want you to actually speak the problem or issue out loud so that you can see it for what it really is. Start by saying – I am worried about and add in your personal problem. You have taken the first step towards solving the issue.
The thing that is worrying you is now out into the open and no longer hiding in your mind creating anxiety and unnecessary worry. Ask it a direct question – also out loud – what is the worst thing that might happen?
You have established the worst case scenario so now ask another two questions. Is it likely to happen and what options have I got to minimise the entire issue. Now you are working positively because you have confronted the problem, it is not a nagging anxiety anymore because it has been acknowledged and you are looking for solutions. You might have to make some difficult decisions but you have taken positive action instead of letting things fester.
This is what happens when you start a conversation with yourself. You bring to the surface all of the things that are worrying you and you have the power to act as the mechanic and fix all of these issues.
You need to have such a conversation at least once a month even if you are feeling good because then it is a different kind of talk – one where you give thanks for all the great things in your life. By having gratitude you attract even more into your orbit.
So are you ready for your positive thinking service – then start to talk to yourself – you would be mad not to.